And so I beg the question, when should one EVER have to lose themselves in order to find another? Yeah, 'fun' is cool, but ultimately, the endgame is much more relevant...I try to adopt a win-win ethos. All parties should b able to walk away from meeting with something that they want. B real about ur intentions. You can be a sexy ass brother; add a nasty attitude to the mix and the results read sheer disgust. I won't martyr myself to have shit. Everyone has a story, so I keep an open mind. Don't assume, ask questions.