Kink is a broad term used to describe non-conventional sexual practices. While some people might view kink as taboo, others find it an exciting and enjoyable way to explore their sexuality. Kink is not limited to any specific gender or sexual orientation, and queer men are no exception. Here are 33 kinky terms every queer man needs to know.
1. BDSM
BDSM is an umbrella term for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism. It encompasses various kinks involving power exchange, pain, restraint, and other forms of physical and psychological stimulation.
2. Flogging
Flogging is a form of impact play that involves hitting the body with a whip, usually made of leather. The sensation can range from a light tickle to a sharp sting, depending on the intensity and the type of whip used.
3. Spanking
Spanking involves striking the buttocks with an open hand or an implement, such as a paddle or a crop. It can be a form of punishment or a consensual act of erotic play.
4. Bondage
Bondage refers to using restraints to immobilize a person during sex or BDSM play. It can involve ropes, cuffs, chains, or other restraints.
5. Dominance
Dominance is a kink that involves one person taking on a dominant role and another person taking on a submissive role. It can involve giving commands, setting rules, or inflicting punishment.
6. Submission
Submission is the opposite of dominance, where one person takes on a submissive role and the other takes on a dominant role. It involves following orders, being disciplined, and surrendering control.
7. Sadism
Sadism is a kink that involves deriving pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliation on another person. It can be consensual or non-consensual and should always be discussed beforehand.
8. Masochism
Masochism is the opposite of sadism, in which a person derives pleasure from pain or humiliation. It can be consensual or non-consensual and should always be discussed beforehand.
9. Impact Play
Impact play refers to any kink that involves striking the body with an object or body part. It can involve flogging, spanking, paddling, or other forms of impact.
10. Wax Play
Wax play involves dripping hot wax onto the skin, creating a sensation of warmth and mild pain. It can be a form of sensual play or a more intense form of BDSM.
11. Knife Play
Knife play involves using a knife or other sharp object to create fear, pain, or arousal sensations. After discussing limits and safety protocols, it should only be practiced with a trusted partner.
12. Breath Play
Breath play refers to any kink that involves restricting a person’s breathing through choking, smothering, or other means. It can be dangerous and should only be practiced with an experienced and knowledgeable partner.
13. CBT
CBT stands for cock and ball torture and involves any kink that involves pain or stimulation of the genitals. It can involve bondage, impact play, or other forms of stimulation.
14. Nipple Play
Nipple play involves stimulating the nipples through licking, sucking, pinching, or other forms of sensation play. It can be a form of sensual play or a more intense form of BDSM.
15. Chastity
Chastity involves wearing a device that prevents a person from achieving sexual gratification. It can be a form of control and power exchange, as a dominant partner typically holds the key to the device.
16. Humiliation
Humiliation is a kink that involves degrading or humiliating a person, either verbally or physically. It should always be consensual and discussed beforehand.
17. Roleplay
Roleplay involves taking on a different identity or persona during sex or BDSM play. It can involve playing out fantasies, scenarios, or power dynamics.
18. Daddy Dom
A Daddy Dom is a dominant partner who takes on a nurturing and protective role, often called a “little girl” or “boy.” It can involve age play and other forms of power exchange.
19. Age Play
Age play involves taking on a younger or older person’s persona during sex or BDSM play. It can involve roleplaying as a child, teenager, or elderly person.
20. Medical Play
Medical play involves roleplaying medical procedures, such as exams, injections, or surgeries. It can be a form of sensory play or a more intense form of BDSM.
21. Watersports
Watersports refers to any kink that involves urine play, either by consuming it, urinating on a partner, or being urinated on.
22. Scat Play
Scat play involves any kink that involves feces, either by consuming it, smearing it, or playing with it in other ways.
23. Suspension
Suspension involves being suspended in the air, typically by ropes or other restraints. It can be a form of bondage or sensory play.
24. Edge Play
Edge play refers to any kink that involves a high level of risk or danger, such as breath play, knife play, or fire play. It should only be practiced with experienced partners who have discussed limits and safety protocols.
25. Primal Play
Primal play involves tapping into one’s primal, animalistic instincts during sex or BDSM play. It can involve growling, biting, or other forms of animalistic behavior.
26. Pet Play
Pet play involves taking on the persona of a pet, such as a puppy or a kitten. It can involve obedience training, feeding, and other forms of power exchange.
27. Impact Toys
Impact toys refer to any object used for impact play, such as whips, paddles, crops, or canes.
28. Electro Play
Electro play involves using electrical stimulation to create sensations of pleasure or pain. It can involve using devices such as TENS units or violet wands.
29. Foot Fetish
A foot fetish is a kink that involves a strong attraction to feet through licking, sucking or other forms of sensation play.
30. Sissification
Sissification involves taking on a feminine persona during sex or BDSM play, often through wearing women’s clothing or makeup.
31. Forced Bi
Forced bi refers to any kink that involves a person being forced to engage in sexual acts with a partner of the same gender. It should always be consensual and discussed beforehand.
32. Double Penetration
Double penetration involves the penetration of two orifices simultaneously, typically the anus and vagina or anus and mouth.
33. Gangbang
A gangbang involves one person being sexually engaged with multiple partners simultaneously. It should always be consensual and discussed beforehand.
In conclusion, kink is a vast and diverse world that can offer new and exciting ways to explore your sexuality. It’s important to communicate with your partner and establish boundaries and consent before engaging in kinky activities. By understanding these 33 kinky terms, queer men can better navigate the world of kink and find what works for them. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to explore your sexuality as long as it’s safe, consensual, and enjoyable for all parties involved. So, whether you’re a seasoned kinkster or just curious, don’t be afraid to explore the world of kink and discover new and exciting ways to express your desires. And always remember to stay safe and have fun!